tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30076853.post5598867484248927612..comments2023-10-28T10:25:48.505-04:00Comments on The O'Neal Family: another dream.Amy and her little familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16863828922117807543noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30076853.post-9169017973070250432011-05-17T07:44:08.140-04:002011-05-17T07:44:08.140-04:00And everyone shouldn't be expecting you to be ...And everyone shouldn't be expecting you to be ok. This is a process that will take time. Just don't let it "become" who you are because then we would all lose you too...nikkinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30076853.post-51255108918823639822011-05-17T07:33:59.191-04:002011-05-17T07:33:59.191-04:00Amy I could never claim to know how you feel, the ...Amy I could never claim to know how you feel, the rest of us can only grieve with you. You are allowed to feel, to be numb when you need to, and even to laugh... I know you think you will never be normal again and you are right in the sense you will never be the same. Austin has touched us all in different ways but yours and chris's hearts are the one's who bare the burden. All I can say as a sister is we love you guys and lend an understanding ear. As a nurse I will say I've watched many families lose someone, not as young as Austin but teenagers... I've seen the wedge be placed between the mother and father, I've seen the mother be swallowed up whole in her grief that everyone else doesn't exist, and I've seen families come together and heal. I know it seems impossible right now but please find yourself and don't let yourself drown in your grief. Austin needs to know his happy family is just that happy and you guys need each other more than ever right now. So accept each others pain and how it presents and hold each other tight. We love you all....nikkinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30076853.post-78643099108646742502011-05-16T18:56:44.546-04:002011-05-16T18:56:44.546-04:00Hi Amy. I am so sorry that this has happened to yo...Hi Amy. I am so sorry that this has happened to you and your family. I have always admired you as a mother, looked up to you as they type of mom I want to be someday. I have no doubt Austin knows that he is loved and missed. Your love for your family is so evident in all that you do and say. I can't even begin to imagine the paid you are feeling right now. If you ever want a get away to Provo, just let me know. Our apartment is small, but there is always room for you. Love you Amy!Suzzie Vehrshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17759254450737337596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30076853.post-78691805146114178452011-05-15T23:23:34.590-04:002011-05-15T23:23:34.590-04:00Sorry your having the bad dreams. One of the reaso...Sorry your having the bad dreams. One of the reasons I hate to sleep. And the main reason I stopped sleeping a few years back. No one can tell you how to feel what to do how to react. You do what you need to do. Dreams are just dreams they are not real. I know it feels real at the time. Love you Amy!Denahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16205115051492904178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30076853.post-59342677151191549272011-05-15T16:59:18.249-04:002011-05-15T16:59:18.249-04:00Don't let anyone make you think you can't ...Don't let anyone make you think you can't feel your feelings. You can grieve as long as you need to and in any way you need to. There is no right or wrong way to deal with the terrible pain of losing a child. Scream, cry, break things, cuddle his blanket, hold your little ones and just breathe them in...whatever you need to do, do it. I think that the worst thing you can do in situations like this is deny yourself the process you need to go through. <br />While Austin is your child forever, he is not physically with you anymore in this mortal life. You are totally allowed to make picture collages of him for your home, keep his memory alive in your home and hearts in any way you feel good about. He's your baby, Amy, you're not supposed to just forget about him and move on. <br />So, you can tell those people in your dreams and in real life who downplay your pain or scoff at your grieving process that you have the support of heaven and those on earth who love you--any way you need to grieve, any time you need to, as long as you need to.Allihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10042135159492139723noreply@blogger.com